So there is a new article that recently came out talking about how social distancing is actually great for your dating life. Shotgun & Charli were discussing it this morning and I am here to argue the theory. Below are the five ways they say it’s helping….
1. New features on dating sites equal extra safety.
2. You have the time to talk and spot the red flags.
3. Physical attraction can take a back seat.
4. You’re laying an emotional foundation.
5. Ask yourself if he’s worthy of being in your “bubble.”
Now I am not saying all of these are completely wrong. I definitely think there is some truth to it. And maybe I am just bitter at how my social distanced dating life has turned out. Listen to my latest podcast HERE to hear all about that. But let’s discuss….
1. All for extra safety! But let’s get real. If you meet a person on a dating app and form some kind of connection with them. You’re going to exchange numbers. I think this is a moot point.
2. When you can only talk to someone on the phone via text or video chat it is MUCH easier to hide the red flags. Don’t get me wrong, I loved the chance to get to know someone on a deeper level before meeting in person, but at the end of the day it only ended up hurting me. Because when you are ONLY able to communicate through your phone you don’t get to see everything you would see if you spent time together physically. Like ohhh I don’t know, other girls they are talking to/in love with. Again, listen to my podcast. Just trust me on this one.
3. I do agree with some parts of this. You can definitely eliminate the people you know are only trying to use you for physical reasons. However, physical attraction is important. And when you know you aren’t going to be able to have that any time with that person in the near future it slows things down. And can end things before they even get started.
4. Not going to argue this one. It’s on point.
5. Here’s the deal, I am only going to know if someone is worthy of being in my bubble once he is introduced to my bubble. I need a dude to meet my friends as soon as possible to make sure he fits in. My friends see things in guys that I don’t because I’m sometimes blinded. So the friend test is key early in the relationship.
Again, I am not hating on this article completely. It’s the situation us single people are in so I guess we should make the most of it. However I have learned first hand recently how these things can hurt, not help, dating during a pandemic. Or maybe the guy I decided to try to date during a pandemic was just a total toolbag. All very possible.
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