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Does he or she like to hug? What does this mean to your relationship?

by Randy Allen

Taking time to hug the one you love, can make the relationship even stronger!

Hugs are important on so many different levels, but most importantly, on a relationship level.

Hugs force you to physically, and therefore, emotionally and spiritually connect. It's a conscious act to stop whatever you are doing and choose to be in the moment with your partner. You are saying, in a literal sense, "You matter to me. I choose you."

Not only are you opening yourself up to receive love again, but you are giving love as well - which, when you think about it, is kind of the point of any relationship, right?

The hug will open the lines of communication and release tension in any relationship. Have you ever tried to stay mad at your husband after a really long, drawn-out hug? It's virtually impossible not to break down into a smile of some sort.

Hugging also affects us on a cellular level- the mere act of being close to the one we love releases "happy chemicals" like serotonin, oxytocin, and even boosts our immune system.

Hugging is more than fleeting moments of intertwined bodies; it's actually a moment of giving back to your relationship.

"The energy exchange between the people hugging is an investment in the relationship. It encourages empathy and understanding. And, it's synergistic, which means the whole is more than the sum of its parts: 1 1 = 3 or more! This synergy is more likely to result in win-win outcomes".