1. Accept that you may lose friends or “family members” for good or for a while: While you are getting back to center, accept that you may not have the same mutual friends and that his family may either a) cling harder wanting you two to get back together or b) completely do a 180 on you forgetting that you even existed. Keep your distance for a while or let them know that it is over and you do not want to talk about that topic right now.
2. Stay off their social media: You are allowed one sneak, then you must delete or distance yourself. It’s so easy to get caught up thinking every status is an attack at your character, about you or even worse about someone new. It’s probably not, but the vulnerable state you’re in right now will say different.
3. Post-break up conversations: The best thing to do is limit the time you spend obsessing to a minimum each day, write down what you are feeling, cry, but do not go trying to patch things up when your emotions are sky high. In fact when you feel the urge to call the ex just to “check in,” call someone, anyone else!
4. Get off your butt: It’s normal to keep a distance or hold a moping party the first week but when your friends barge in for the ultimate intervention, don’t fight it. After a horrible breakup having sleepovers, talking about the future- Anything to bring you back to center.
5. Be kind and thoughtful to yourself: After breakups it’s quite normal to self-loathe, self pity and constantly have “I should’ve” scenarios replaying in your head. Remember what caused the break up and why you must move on then schedule days of love. Treat yourself to things you would do when you are head over heels in love: Schedule a mani and pedi session, go to a day spa (Tip: during weekdays you can get better prices), go see a movie solo. Be kind and gentle with yourself as much as possible.