1. Accept that you may lose friends or “family members”   for good or for a while: While you are getting back to center, accept   that you may not have the same mutual friends and that his family may either   a) cling harder wanting you two to get back together or b) completely do a 180   on you forgetting that you even existed. Keep your distance for a while or let   them know that it is over and you do not want to talk about that topic right   now.

2. Stay off their social media: You are allowed   one sneak, then you must delete or distance yourself. It’s so easy to get   caught up thinking every status is an attack at your character, about you or   even worse about someone new. It’s probably not, but the vulnerable state   you’re in right now will say different.

3. Post-break up conversations: The best thing   to do is limit the time you spend obsessing to a minimum each day, write down   what you are feeling, cry, but do not go trying to patch things up when your   emotions are sky high. In fact when you feel the urge to call the ex just to   “check in,” call someone, anyone else!

4. Get off your butt: It’s normal to keep a distance   or hold a moping party the first week but when your friends barge in for the   ultimate intervention, don’t fight it. After a horrible breakup having sleepovers,   talking about the future- Anything to bring you back to center.

5. Be kind and thoughtful to yourself: After breakups   it’s quite normal to self-loathe, self pity and constantly have “I should’ve”   scenarios replaying in your head. Remember what caused the break up and why   you must move on then schedule days of love. Treat yourself to things you would   do when you are head over heels in love: Schedule a mani and pedi session, go   to a day spa (Tip: during weekdays you can get better prices), go see a movie   solo. Be kind and gentle with yourself as much as possible.