I remember after my last relationship ended I wanted to chop my hair off....lol...DRAMA QUEEN! Thank goodness I didn't...I would have been so mad at myself!
1. No stalking. You know his favorite restaurant. You know where he works and where he lives (hopefully). Now forget you ever knew. There is no reason to drive by his house at 3 a.m. to see if he's home or to deliver his L.L. Bean catalogue. (Same goes for Facebook and the Internet, but you probably already know that.) The hardest thing for me after a breakup is cutting off communication... the texts late at night to say "I miss you" or "Thinking of you." But the more you resist, the faster you heal. Promise.
2. No permanent or major life changes. This is not an ideal time to get that tattoo. You want to die your hair and cut bangs? Fine. But save the ink for when you're less emotional. Same goes for moving to Sweden or quitting your job. Give it at least a month of sitting with the decision before you do anything rash. If you still want to do it after that, then by all means, go for it. I'll totally support you.
3. Stop telling everyone about your travails (this includes talking trash on your ex). At some point, talking about what went down is pointless. Yes, you miss him. Yes, it hurts. But the more you focus on the heartbreak, the more things stay the same (or get worse). This is even more important if you share friends in common. The last thing you want is to have someone reporting back to your ex.
4. Do not go into destruction mode. Yeah, ripping the zippers off all of his pants and smashing his guitar may feel good at the time, but then what? I have a friend that decided to clock her man in the balls, and she broke her foot doing so. I'm of the mind that violence is never OK, so let this be a lesson that sometimes when you act out, you do the most damage to yourself.
5. No sad music. Turn off Adele, turn on power-ballads. This one should work just fine.