Dear Abby,

I am a 30 something single mom and I am looking for someone to share my life with.  The problem I have run into is that in the last month I have met two great guys, one is a divorced father of two and he and I share a lot of interests, but he doesn't seem to want the same things, like marriage and kids.  The other guy is very sweet and we share some of the same interests and he is defintely interested in marriage and kids.  My problem is do I give up on the one who seems to want to keep me at arm's length and pay attention to the one that has the same long-term goals as me or do I wait and see what happens.  I don't want to hurt either of them.
 
Confused in NH

Dear Confused,

Yes, I think you need to ditch the guy who doesn't want the same things as you. You say you don't want to hurt anyone, but isn't he hurting you by possibly wasting your time? Is there the possibility that he could come around? Absolutely! But if you're worried about wasted time and there's another guy who can fulfill your wants and needs, GO FOR HIM! The choice is yours, but if you feel the same about both guys, I would try to make something happen with the guy who shares the same interests as you. Take time to really think about what your heart truly wants, but don't spend your life trying to change a guy who has no intention of changing.