Dear Abby,

I have had a crush on this guy for over a year.  He is a "friend" in the circle of friends I hang out with. Nothing has ever come from it, but I am waiting...or I was. We flirted all the time and we always laugh together. He recently asked out my best friend and now my heart is totally broken. They aren't a couple, but they've gone on a couple dates and I feel totally broken.  How do I confront this problem?

Betrayed in Chilton

Dear Betrayed,

I hate to be blunt, but I have to say I'm having a hard time seeing how you were betrayed.  How was your friend supposed to know you liked the guy? Or how was the guy to know? You cannot be mad at someone else because you were too afraid to take a chance. No one can help feelings, so express them, and if they are not recriprocated, then at least you gave it your all. Don't be hard on yourself, but do not end friendships over this. The only person who was aware of your feelings was you. If you believe that you are in love, let both parties know before their relationship blossoms into something more.