I am a 24-year old law student and my ex-boyfriend is 29 and a district manager of a restaurant chain. We dated 2 years and he broke up with me over a month ago (we sat down and agreed to take a break but it was lead by him.) Over the past year we have been in a long-distance relationship where I did 90% of the traveling to see him. At the time of the break up, he said that it wasn't working for some reason and said he needed time to figure things out. When we broke up, he went as far as to say that he thinks something is wrong with him. But he wants to focus on work and not worry about anyone. He said he wishes we met 2 years in our future. I felt like this was cliche crap at the time, but then later I tried to rationalize why it's different than other girls' situations. Then when I tell my friends what he said, they roll their eyes. This is my first long-term boyfriend, and I've had a really hard time enjoying anything or being productive because of how I'm feeling. He really had that personality that was in-sync with mine and I really thought he was the one. He had said the exact thing to me during our relationship (when it was good.) Is this a typical first break-up reaction or am I holding on to something good that may return to me? What should I do?
Dear First Heartbreak,
Here's the deal. We've all been in those relationships where we think we met THE ONE, but somehow, something screws it up. If this was your first love, I know it's going to be hard, but I would try to explore and see what else is out there! You're only 24! You have time to meet new people and date, and that way once you know what else the world has to offer, you can confirm what you really want in life, whether it is your ex or someone else! I don't like that you had to do all of the traveling to see each other either...that shows that he wasn't committed. Be young, beautiful, and free and find out what the world has to offer! Don't settle, you deserve everything!