Dear Abby,

I have been dating a guy for about a month and have known him for a total of three.  I want to marry him....I swear this is it. It was love at first sight and I am ready to take this relationship to the next step.  My friends and family aren't very supportive...they think I'm crazy and moving to quick and that if we get married, it'll end in divorce. What do you think?

Moving Quickly in Appleton

Dear Moving Quickly,

Here's the deal...I've never been in a situation before where I felt love at first sight and technically, I don't believe in it.  I believe in "lust" at first sight. To really love someone you have to take the time to get to know them and appreciate them for who they are and what they believe in.  You might love him, but I'm not sure you're IN love with him. My opinion only. I recently met a couple who met on September 1 and were married October 3rd.  They have been happily married for 22 years so that just goes to show that my beliefs can be wrong on this subject. It is hard to give advice to you because I don't know what you're feeling.  No one can tell you who or how to love, that is totally up to you. If I were you, I would wait the relationship out for a while just incase you are still in the "honeymoon" phase, but if you in your heart of hearts believe that this is it, then go for it. No use putting off happiness! Good luck!