Dear Abby,

My parents have been divorced now for about 5 years, and 3 years after they divorced my mom started dating.  I knew it would happen, so it wasn't a huge shock, but there is still a problem. My mom is now married to this man, and he's fine, it's his 16 year old daughter that I can't stand.  She is so mean. They moved into my mom's condo when they got married, and she asked if I was willing to move out of my room so she could have it...NO! and she always finds something wrong with what I'm doing.  There is only 1 year age difference between us and I'm leaving for college in August, so I won't have to live in the same home as her for long, but I fear I'm in a way stuck with her for life...what do you suggest I do to tolerate her?

Annoyed Step in GB

Dear Annoyed Step,

Having seperate families is always a tough situation.  You were born into one, and sometimes we're given another whether we want it or not. I'm happy that you like your stepfather, because usually that is is the issue, however, its not so good that you and your stepsister aren't friends. To me, it sounds like she is starting the fights. You have to put out the fire before she can strike the match. Let her know that you are hurting and she is the reason. August is sooner and further than you think. Yes, it will come quickly, but in all reality, it is 8 months away. I don't think you want to be living this way for that long.  Also, don't be afraid to approach your mom or stepdad. Its his daughter, he knows how to punish her. By not doing anything, you're letting her think she can boss you around, and that is unacceptable. Approach her privately first, if that doesn't work, go to the authorities (in this case, your mom or stepdad) and get the problem solved so that you can enjoy the rest of your senior year without having to worry about her, and also, so you can enjoy the last months being a kid in your home. Good luck!