Dear Abby,

My boyfriend recently moved to Chicago because of a job.  We have dated for over 3 years and are in love and are more than willing to make this work.  Any advice or suggestions on how to make this work?

Lonely in Green Bay

Dear Lonely,

I can't say that I've ever been in your situation, I broke up with my boyfriend when I went to college, so I never had to try to make it work. I admire your will to make this relationship work, and while I can't really give you any advice, I can give you some suggestions that I would try.  First of all, try to see each other as much as possible. If you have vacation days from work or if you're free on the weekends, alternate making the trip to see each other. Also, try to still do activities together.  Watch your favorite TV shows while being on the phone with each other and act like you're sitting next to each other on the couch.  Try to talk everyday...keep each other up-to-date on your lives. If something interesting happened at school or work, let him know! If you made a new friend or bought a new outfit, let him know! Also, constantly remind each other of how much you love each other. Remind each other of the future, whether it be marriage or continuing your courtship a little bit longer, make sure you're always looking ahead. And don't be afraid to take advantage of this long distance relationship. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. When you do get to be with each other, it is going to be so special. If you are really in love, you'll make this work. Best of luck!