Dear Abby,

I am ready to become more than friends with one of my guy friends, but I have no idea how to make the first move...help!!!

Ready in Green Bay

Dear Ready,

Here's the deal, don't move too fast! Gradually change things, if your relationship changes suddenly, he'll freak out. For example, if you catch yourself IMing or texting or calling him frequently...STOP! He'll see you as needy and probably a little overbaring. Also, try to stay away from giving him advice on anything emotional. An outfit yes, a past girlfriend no. Otherwise he'll see you more as a sister or shoulder to lean on and not a potential new "emotional problem" (jk ;) When the time is right, and you will know it, take him aside, be mature, and tell him your feelings. He'll appreciate your honesty, and who knows, he might be feeling the same way! Just keep it gradual and slow.