Dear Abby,

My boyfriend's parents hate me.  They make our relationship impossible because it's his family, but I'm his girlfriend of a year and I know he loves me, and he cannot choose one or the other.  I've gone to their house, given them cards when they're sick, and have gone to family events that I was less than excited about, but I wanted them to know I was trying.  It all means nothing. They've been trying to split us up since we announced we were dating.  What am I going to do?

Hated By Parents In Appleton

Dear Hated,

Wow, what a crappy situation to be in.  Sounds like your boyfriend's parents are stubborn and have an idea in their head about you and they aren't going to change.  If they are that horrible to you and your boyfriend doesn't do anything to change that, you might want to reconsider your relationship.  It sounds like you're the only one doing anything to try to change the current situation.  Ask them if you can go to dinner and talk this out...hold nothing back.  If their attitude doesn't change, know that you did all you could do and this isn't your fault.  If your boyfriend doesn't start to stand up for you, I'd seriously reconsider the relationship.  It might not be what you want to hear, but do you really want to be in 2nd place for the rest of your life? You are better than that, and I give you credit for doing all you can to try to work this out. Kudos to you!