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  • Dr. Phil's Car

    Posted by Lauri Quinn Loewenberg
    "Dreams reveal stuff about you that you didn't know was there.- Clara Hill

    Dear Lauri, 

    I dreamed I was in Dr. Phil's car. It was a super nice car. All of a sudden, he leaned over and kissed me! What does that mean? - Irene 61, West Chester, PA

    Lauri: Dr. Phil's car shows that you are moving forward in your life in an emotionally and psychologically healthy direction. You also describe his car as "super nice." What, in your life, feels super nice right now? Are you being super nice, maybe? His kiss suggests that you must have recently had a healthy conversation with someone because - like kissing - it takes two mouths to communicate. I believe the message of this dream is that you need to keep up your momentum and keep up this healthy way of communicating because whatever it is you are doing seems to have the Dr. Phil seal of approval!

    Irene replies: I think you're right on. I've been doing volunteer work that has changed me so much. I'm a hospice volunteer. I feel very positive and happy and have many healthy conversations with almost everyone I meet. I'm psychologically at a place I've never been to before.

    FASCINATING DREAM FACT: Did you know each dream you have throughout the night progresses in duration?  Your first dream will be about 3 minutes long.  The last dream you have before awakening can be 45 minutes long!

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  • House Full of Bees

    Posted by Lauri Quinn Loewenberg
    "Dreams are nature's answering service - don't forget to pick up your messages once in a while." - Sarah Crestinn
     

     

    Dear Lauri, I dreamt I came home and the house was full of bees. I went in the back door and could not get it open to leave. They weren't stinging or anything...but it was spooky.   – Chuck, Erie, PA
    Lauri: Since the dream starts with you entering your home, it is connected to something going on with the home dynamic OR it is something you are bringing home with you when it probably ought to be left at work or elsewhere. Speaking of work, maybe that's it. Are you such a "busy bee" that you work even when you are at home?  Bees can also represent the “buzz" the latest gossip. Is anyone in your home a big gossip? Or is there any gossip surrounding you that is really "bugging" you? Bees and other stinging insects in dreams can also be connected to painful and stinging remarks. The good news is that the bees weren't stinging you... yet. This tells me that you may be in a situation that has the potential to be emotionally painful if you don't "exterminate" the issue right away. Whatever these bees are, your dream is showing you that the situation is mounting and your home is not going to feel like home until this is taken care of.
    Chuck replies: The buzzing of gossip and stinging remarks may be accurate. I've had some issues lately and been the subject of some nasty remarks.  My personality is to just internalize it, and so it may be manifesting itself in the bees. Good call! 
     
    FASCINATING DREAM FACT: Nicotine patches and melatonin are reported to increase the vividness of dreams and nightmares. The nicotine patch in particular is said to intensify dreams. 
     
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  • Wire in my Throat

    Posted by Lauri Quinn Loewenberg
    Dear Lauri, 
    I dreamed that I stuck a good 3 to 4 inches of thin brass wire into my throat (from the outside of my neck into my larynx) for safe keeping.  I eventually remembered that I'd put it there and worried that it might slip below the skin and that I wouldn't retrieve it.  I grabbed some tweezers and was able to pull it out cleanly.  It seemed like a very normal thing to be doing in the dream.  There was really no anxiety associated with it at all.   - Audrey 32, Roy, UT
    Lauri: This dream brings attention to the throat, To the dreaming mind, the throat represents your voice, your ability to speak up about something or your ability to voice your opinion.  I think the thin brass wire you inserted into your throat represents what needs to be said. You've got it in there for safe keeping because - perhaps - you feel keeping silent about a certain issue feels safer to you than speaking up and possibly causing problems. But notice how you realize, in the dream, that it really would be best to get the wire out. That is the way your dreaming mind is showing you that not using your voce and speaking up, in the long run, will create a far worse circumstance for you than playing it safe and keeping quiet. Your dream is also showing you that speaking up about this issue will be far easier than you think. So spit it out already, sister!
    Albert replies: You’re exactly right! I wasn’t standing up for myself and my opinions.  I’m the type to sit back and observe, but my subconscious knew I needed to do otherwise.  I had to tell someone to leave my life (again!) and I had to ask someone else to return something valuable. I don’t like to make waves, so these thoughts were really bothering me.  Thanks for helping me work through this! Now I have peace of mind and I have my refrigerator back!
      
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  • Dream of a Dangerous Ex

    Posted by Lauri Quinn Loewenberg
    "The greatest book of study is that of your own, written by the soul upon time and space -- that of your dreams!" - From the book, "Season of Changes, Ways of Response"  
    Dear Dream Zone, 
    For twenty years now I’ve been dreaming that my ex-wife hurts me somehow.  For example, last night she had become addicted to crack cocaine and was stealing from me while she was living with an old perverted prosecuting attorney (in reality she's a pretty solid citizen).  These dreams usually screw up my day.   – Albert 55, Rockingham, NC
    Lauri: Twenty years of dreaming your ex is hurting you is a good indication you have not allowed yourself to heal from the emotional "wounds" caused by the divorce. When someone we know in a dream is not acting like they normally would, such as your ex being addicted to crack and stealing from you, it means they aren’t playing them self but instead is showing us something about our self.  An addiction is the inability to let go of something, and your dreams indicate that you have had a hard time letting go of the pain.  It must have been a tremendous blow to your ego!  She was also living with an old perverted prosecutor.  This means YOU have been living with guilt... and like the prosecutor (whose job it is to find guilt), it's starting to get old.  Your dream is trying to tell you that by living this way, all this time, you are only robbing yourself.
    Albert replies: I think you hit several bull’s-eyes.  I worked in radio and TV for many years.  So when you say the divorce hurt the ego… yeah, it did.  I was so vain, so foolish, so dumb, and was gone too much.  It's only recently that I've started to enjoy life again.  This was extraordinary!
     
    Fascinating Dream Fact:
    If you get your recommended 8 hours of sleep each night, then in one year you will have had 1,825 dreams!
     
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  • My daughter and I had the exact same dream

    Posted by Lauri Quinn Loewenberg
    "Dreams are spiritual in origin and are there to help, not to hinder or criticize, so never allow yourself to become discouraged by your dreams." - Wilda B. Tanner
    Dear Lauri, 
    My daughter ended up sleeping in my bed last night. We had the same exact dream. We went to a huge kid’s play land, the size of a large home. I couldn't find her and I was going all over asking for help. There were so many kids. My daughter said, in her dream, she was at a play land and couldn't find me. She was asking adults to help her. Can we have the same dream at the same time? - Candice 30, Salt Lake City
    Lauri: Yes, two people can have the same dream on the same night. It's called shared dreaming and it usually happens to two people who are very close: husband and wife, best friends, mother and daughter. The reason why is because the two individuals are dealing with the same issue and their subconscious responds to it similarly by giving them comparable dreams. That being said, is there anything going on in your waking lives that is pulling you away from your daughter that would cause the two of you to miss each other? Are you working too much? Is there a shared custody arrangement? Anything like that? When you search for someone in a dream it often means you miss them or miss something about them.
    Candice replies: Yes! I have been working more hours & she is starting a private school in a few weeks. She is going from half day at school to full day at school. I'm a single parent so we are super close. Thank you. 
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  • A man tries to smother me with a pillow

    Posted by Lauri Quinn Loewenberg
    "Sleep is the glue that binds new information into the brain."   - Robert Stickgold, Ph.D
      
    Dear Lauri, 
    I have woke up screaming twice in the last two weeks from the same dream (although I was only asleep less than an hour each time the dream occurred). A man is standing over me trying to smoother me with a pillow. I wake up screaming and trying to fight back. The man's face is in a white cloud and his facial outline is black and white much like a police sketch drawing. The facial features are clear but I do not know this man. Please help! - Kristina 38, Wausau, WI
    Lauri: Fear not! This dream does not mean there is some shady character with less than good intentions out there somewhere that you need to worry about. In fact, that shady character is either a part of you or some part of your life that is metaphorically smothering you. What, in the last two weeks has really been crowding in on you, intruding on your peace of mind and causing you to feel powerless? Is it a depression? An overwhelming issue? Is it a situation that seems a little "sketchy"? The fact that the man's face is in a cloud suggests that you may be having a hard time "facing" the reality of this situation or you are having a hard time seeing how you are going to get through it. Rest assured you will, whether it be time or whether it be that you need to work harder at the issue, you will get through. 
    Kristina replies: A dear friend of mine passed away unexpectedly at the end of 2009. He did not have any close family members so a group of friends decided to sprinkle some of his ashes in a memorial garden we created. The dedication of the garden and ash sprinkling took place this past weekend and I was a key person in planning the event. Even though it has been over a year and a half since his death, I miss him terribly and his death is hard to accept. Thanks so much.
     
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  • Sliced my Heart Open

    Posted by Lauri Quinn Loewenberg
    "Sleep is the glue that binds new information into the brain."   - Robert Stickgold, Ph.D
      
    Dear Lauri, 
    I dreamed I was at work and my boss and I were both shaving our legs at the backroom sink. Then I noticed a single hair on my chest over my heart and tried to shave it but the razor sliced an artery which I could see hanging there, pouring out blood. The dream ended with me driving myself to the hospital ER.  - Denise 48, Boise, ID
    Lauri: First of all... ew! Secondly, hairy legs and chest hair are both rather manly physical traits, but to the dreaming mind they are your male, assertive behaviors. It seems your dreaming mind is telling you to try not to be too manly somewhere in your life. Are you too "bossy" and assertive in a relationship or in general? Slicing your heart open to the point of blood gushing out suggests you may have recently "poured your heart out" to someone. Also, the damage to the heart is most likely connected to heart break in real life. The ER visit means your inner self is in emergency mode. It wants this emotional pain to heal ASAP. 
    Denise replies:  My husband laughs as I read this to him! Yes, I have a history of being too bossy and assertive with him. The heartbreak is likely related to my only daughter getting married two weeks ago and moving far away. I've been feeling a pretty sad about that. I guess I need to make efforts to connect with her. Thanks! 
     
    Fascinating Dream Fact:
    According to a longitudinal study conducted by Bill Tramini that appeared in the medical journal "Pediatrics," 62 percent of children have regular nightmares, or one every two weeks, during preschool age.
     
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  • Lung Cancer in a Dream

    Posted by Lauri Quinn Loewenberg
    "Let me not mar that perfect dream 
    By an auroral stain,
    But so adjust my daily night
    That it will come again."   - Emily Dickinson 
     
    Dear Lauri, 
    I had a dream last night that I was in the hospital for some reason and on the outside of one of the machines in my room I saw the diagnosis of lung cancer. I asked the nurse if this was true and she said it was. I saw the tumor on film, it was very big. I hadn't received a prognosis or told anyone else about my diagnosis.   – Cindy 41, Council Bluffs, IA
    Lauri: Your dream doesn't mean this is anything you need to actually physically worry about. Cancer in a dream means there is an unhealthy situation in your waking life that is growing, getting worse and beginning to eat away at you. You were in the hospital for something else, which means you are already actively trying to make some waking life situation better. You also had not been officially diagnosed in the dream, which means you may not have officially spoken up about this issue or had anyone else in waking life agree with you about it yet. None the less, your dream is showing you that if you allow this cancerous situation to continue, it's going to kill who you are meant to be.
    Cindy replies: Wow it all makes perfect sense. First off, I have recently left a nine year relationship. There are children involved so the relationship has not completely dissolved. The other person in the relationship continues to contact me daily, via texts or phone, begging and pleading to be kind and loving, etc. I have been eating myself sick, literally, not really sure why though. Maybe all the stress. I can definitely see that continued contact with him is unhealthy and this is becoming a growing problem, for both of us. I do absolutely feel like I am killing who I am really meant to be Thank you! 
     
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  • War Dreams

    Posted by Lauri Quinn Loewenberg
     "I dream my painting and then paint my dream." - Vincent Van Gogh
     
    Dear Lauri, 
    Many of my dreams are in the past like in the Civil War or World War II. I can see the gunfire and death and I am always running and running. I don't know why I run or who or what is chasing me. I always wake up exhausted from the running. - Mary Ann 44, Memphis, TN
    Lauri: Dreaming of the past doesn't necessarily mean you are seeing a past life, rather your dream is commenting on something from YOUR past. The settings of your dreams are always a war. What sort of battle is in your past? Anything from childhood? A health battle? Whatever the case, it is something you are continually "running from" or avoiding dealing with in waking life... and that is why you keep dreaming the same thing over and over again. Your dreams cannot move forward until you move forward. Clearly there is something from your past you are avoiding rather than confronting and working through. When you get help with this, when you finally face it and stop running, your dreams will stop or change. Good luck!
    Mary Ann replies: I think this goes back to my first health issues. I have had twenty surgeries, ten on my lower back, seven for an artificial hip and the rest for different things. I believe my war dreams started when I had one of my many hip surgeries; I freaked out and literally ran out of the hospital, put my clothes on and just left. Whenever I need another surgery I freak and want to run. I had back surgery in January but called and cancelled the surgery. That same day I got a calming phone call from my surgeon and we re-booked the surgery. I am tired of running. I now face my health issues straight on.
     
    Fascinating Sleep Fact: The study at the University of Pittsburgh found that obese children spend an average of 22 less minutes in REM sleep than their peers of average weight.
     
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  • Ghosts Pushing Open the Door

    Posted by Lauri Quinn Loewenberg
    Dear Lauri,
    I keep having this frightful nightmare of me trying to close a door in which someone or something keeps pushing from the other side. In my dream I feel that on the other side is a spirit or ghost that's pushing through. Freaky! These types of dreams happen at least once a week for at least the last year. Please help.   - Candy 31, Eagle River, WI
    Lauri: The ghost/spirit is most likely something that is currently haunting you, something from your past (distant or recent) that is lingering in your psyche and bothering you. You've got a time frame: a year. What would you say has been bothering you or causing you upset the most for the past year? The pushing you are feeling in the dream may also be something. Are you feeling pushed around by someone or is there a lot of pressure, at say work, that is really getting to you?  If so, your dream seems to be showing you that you are unable to "close the door on work" once you get home. These dreams will keep happening until you find a way to leave work… at work.
    Candy replies: THAT’S IT! I am so not able to "close the door on work" & a ton of pressure. It’s a constant battle! I haven't found the perfect outlet to this issue. A couple things I've tried have helped a little, but obviously not enough. What a break through! Now if I could just figure out how to take my mind off things better, I’d get back to my Johnny Depp dreams. 
     
    Fascinating Dream Fact: Peanut butter is a big nightmare giver!! Do not eat peanut butter within 2 hours of bedtime or your dreams may not be so sweet. 
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  • Raw Porkchop

    Posted by Lauri Quinn Loewenberg

    "The best reason for having dreams is that in dreams no reasons are necessary." -Ashleigh Brilliant

    Dear Lauri,
    Last night I dreamed that my grandmother came into my bedroom and offered me a pork chop.  I noticed it was raw after biting into it. I spit it out and yelled at her saying I didn't want it.  She took it from me and said, “That is the right answer.” – Tammy 32, Parkville, MD
    Lauri: Unless your grandmother is a lousy cook, she’s actually a symbol for your own wisdom (grandparents in dreams often stand in for wisdom we have gained through age and experience).  She offers you a raw pork chop!  Eew!!  Do you feel you have been handed "a raw deal" in life or handed a raw deal recently? Your grandmother, your inner wisdom, tells you something very important.  She tells you that you’ve got it right!  In other words, you are refusing to take on the attitude that you are a victim, that you were dealt a bad hand in life and that is precisely the attitude that will help you overcome anything!
    Tammy replies: Wow is all I can say.  I have had feelings of getting a raw deal in life.  I never knew my father and have a dysfunctional relationship with my mother and have felt, for a very long time, I was defeated even before my life began. I have been angry about the situation surrounding the events of my life and birth.  My family NEVER shared much about my father and so I have been searching for him with no help from them for the last 12 years… and in December I found him!  I am very proud of myself how I've been able to maintain my emotions thru this roller coaster ride over the last 3 months. 
     
    Fascinating Dream Fact: Did you know that if your eyes were pinned open your vision would shut down as soon as you fell asleep?  But once you start dreaming, you will see what is going on in your dream, not what is actually before you in real life! 
     
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  • Feeding a Bird/Grasshopper

    Posted by Lauri Quinn Loewenberg

    "A dream is an invaluable commentator and illuminator of life. Listen to the wisdom of the dream." Carl Jung

    Dear Lauri, 
    I was trying to care for a small bird/grasshopper creature by feeding it. It hopped on my finger and I was worried it would get out and get killed because it was so delicate. What does this mean?  – Alli 52, Portland, OR
    Lauri: Just as you are caring for this creature in your dream, what are you currently caring for or nurturing in waking life? Is there a project you are working on that requires you to "feed" it with creative ideas? The delicate nature of the creature in your dream may be connected to the frailty of this project or idea. Is it something that could very easily end, fall apart or fall through if you aren't careful? The bird part of the creature may mean it is connected to some sort of sense of freedom you desire OR something that you hope will take off and soar. The grasshopper aspect of the creature may be your concern that you are jumping into something a little too quickly. Let me know what you think.
    Alli replies: The project must be my webcomic I've been working on for a year and a half. The frailty plays into my fear of not having a good idea for the next installment. I was worried about that yesterday and today and I always think, "Well, that’s it; This is all going to fall apart!" And your bird/grasshopper assessment is right on. I both hope this project will set me free and will take/hop off. Thank you! That was perfect.
     
     
    Fascinating Sleep Fact: An online survey of 1,408 couples, conducted by the Sleep Council of England, found that 1 in 4 people regularly retreats to a spare room or sofa to get a good night's sleep. The preference for separate spaces has even begun to affect home design. According to the National Association of Home Builders, there's been a steady increase in the number of requests for "two-master bedroom" homes since 1990, prompting the organization to predict that by 2015, 60 percent of all custom upscale homes will be built with two "owner suites.
     
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